Mom Guilt

Mom guilt is the worst. If you are a working mom like me, I’m sure you have felt this once or twice…or a million times.

I can’t tell you how many times I have heard from my kids, “Well Bobby Sue’s mom gets to come and read to the class, or Jake’s mom gets to help with crafts, why can’t you come?”

The truth is, I am a mom that has to work and help provide for our family, along with my husband. At the same time, I know some stay at home moms that have such a busy schedule that they just don’t have time to do extra things. IT’S OKAY!

Something I have to tell myself is, ‘just because you can’t do this thing, it does not make you a bad mother’. I am blessed to be chosen to be a mother and God does not make mistakes.

My first priority besides my Faith would be my family. I am working to provide for them. I am working to help make it possible for things like football and ballet. These are things I can provide my children because of the work I choose to put in. The same work that YOU put in.

We can’t control everything, but we can control how we handle those situations. I always try to remind my kiddos of my job and why I work for us. Honestly, it helps to remind myself too. When you are busy, whether working, or running errands or cleaning or whatever it may be, you are doing it for your family.

I always make it a priority to make sure my kids know I love them. I respect how they feel when they ask those questions and give honest answers. They are tiny humans and it’s our job to help raise them to be good, honest, Jesus lovin’ people. I’m proud to know that, though they sometimes have bad days of making mommy feel guilty (because every kids is the master of guilt trips), they see our dynamic and all of our efforts as part of a team.

The table can’t stand without all 4 legs. We all have our part. I’m not sure why we put it on ourselves to think we should be holding the table all by ourselves. What happens to a table with one leg? It falls over.

You are part of the reason your family is standing like it should.

Let the guilt go! You are doing the best you can.

We need to be our own cheerleader every once in a while. Give yourself a pat on the back! You are doing a GREAT job!

Susan Ingram, OWL Blogger

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For many years Susan has been the go-to organizer and stager for her friends and family. Having a long-time passion and naturally inclined skill set for making spaces purposeful, she decided to pursue a career in the industry. She has an endearing and meaningful memory of decorating her bedroom as a child. This included transforming bar stools into multi-story Barbie Doll townhouses. In her past lives, Susan was a Restaurateur, Executive Sales Manager, and a Cosmeceutical Sales Rep. When asked about her biggest accomplishment, she’ll gush about her gratitude for the blessing of having raised a good and decent human being. Her son is currently a grad student at the University of Florida’s MBA program.

Susan resides in Birmingham with her husband of twenty-six years and their pack of fur babies. This includes four cats and a “little” 110 lb. dog. Her lifelong platform is animal rescue and advocation.

“No matter how educated, talented, rich, or cool you believe you are, how you treat others ultimately tells all. Integrity is everything.”

Meet Miranda! The one that keeps our wheels turning and always answers the phone with a smile on her face.

She loves fishing, family, and all things nerd – which is 1000% why we love her so much!

Miranda lives in Odenville with her husband, precious baby boy, and a sassy cat.